Kink Tuition: a Kinky Lifestyle Deserves a Kinky Life Coach

Kink Tuition Mentoring

As we cannot look into our own eyes without a mirror, we also cannot find our inner core without an external reflection. KT mentoring provides a conscious kink mirror, a space where you can share and better understand your fetish desires and where you can show your shadow side without fear of judgement.

Whether you’re a kink newbie or BDSM veteran, your fetish desires can affect the rest of your life. Living the kink lifestyle can bring up multiple issues such as how to connect and form relationships, how to manage a secret lifestyle, or how to find clarity about the nature of our kinks. Many people feel isolated and guilty about their fetish desires simply because they have no one to talk to. And even when we are a part of the BDSM community, our friends will often only tell us what we want to hear… But does that actually solve our problems and helps us grow? 

With 20 years experience in the BDSM scene, two psychology centered degrees, and a vast array of private research on BDSM, Tantra and human sexuality, Kalyss Mercury offers a style of mentoring that goes beyond traditional psychotherapy. Using a variety of tools, including meditations, embodiment practices and sharing sessions, KinkTuition Mentoring guides clients to acknowledge their desires and resolve shame issues around sexuality & kink. If the client is ready and willing, their kinks can be used as tools to expand their awareness and to nurture the client’s higher potential.

Public Workshops

No public workshops scheduled at the moment. To be notified about future events, or to invite Ms. Mercury to facilitate a workshop at your event, send a WhatsApp message. Follow her Instagram for regular event updates.

Domination and submission is an energy exchange, a power exchange, a dance where power is the rhythm. In many partner dances, like tango or salsa, one partner surrenders, while the other leads. And as with any dance, ease and grace comes from learning the foundations, the structure and the styles. In this play lab (no need to “work” or “shop”), you will learn the basic guiding principles within BDSM, the skills and the attitude behind the play. From these building blocks, you will be able to continue your exploration, expanding your knowledge at your own pace and find your unique style. Couples or singles are welcome. Single participants will be paired up and take turns in dominating and surrendering. This is a laboratory of touch, where we will explore body sensations and sensuality with an open mind. Kink is not “FORE-play”, it is simply PLAY. It CAN but does not HAVE to lead to erotic arousal. You are invited to go only as far as it is comfortable for you.

After an introduction about safety, how to set up a scene, and how to use  kinky toys safely, participants will be guided within sensation play, spanking and light impact play (flogging) exercises. They will also have the opportunity to share their experience in small groups and to ask practical questions about BDSM and kink.

Topics covered:

Safety Parameters

Negotiations & Boundaries

Dom and sub archetypes

Fetishes & Kinky games
(The Fetish “Menu”)

Body awareness & Presence

Basic Spanking techniques

Aftercare, the closure of play

In this 60-minute lecture, Ms. Mercury shares some of the background research on pain mechanisms in the nervous system, psycho-social theories for why people enjoy S&M, and her own academic research results on the therapeutic benefits of S&M practice. After the lecture, there will be a Q&A, so you can ask whatever question you would like.

We live in a paradoxical world where pain management funds an industry of at least $36.1 billion side by side with the culture of BDSM which thrives and celebrates, among other taboo activities, the use of pain within sexual contexts.

Why would people want to use painful activities as part of intimate relationships? Or more to the point, HOW can they mix the two with positive outcomes?

This paradox was the primary inspiration for Ms. Mercury’s Masters's degree research and dissertation on the therapeutic benefits of sadomasochism (S&M).

As a kink explorer from early adulthood, Ms. Mercury observed first-hand how kinky S&M play was not as painful as it seemed. In fact, many kinksters are more “pained” by the stigma around BDSM than by the crack of a whip.

In the past, this stigma placed practitioners in diagnostic scenarios, which described our kinks as «perversions», something to be cured through psychotherapy. Despite the recent removal of BDSM from international psychiatric diagnostic manuals by the World Health Organisation, the cultural stigma remains. In many cases, this cultural judgment can still damage participants’ rights for child custody and job security. Researching the psychological and biological roots of BDSM sheds light on the paradox of perversions and promotes a more accepting and respectful attitude towards diverse sexual & fetish interests.